Little Harmony in the New Romantic Relationships
It’s been a while since my last article!
This means that I’ve been busy with my business and that’s just excellent!
In this very morning, I received into my attention a very common situation for almost every couple, especially, in the beginnings of the relationships.
I believe it’s a challenge we all meet, apparently plain, but you can chose to use it in the favor of your relationship or it might remove you from the person you are in love with, it’s up to you anyway, honey.
So, I asked for permission to feel inspired and I wrote an article on this topic.
It’s spring time, lovely!
It’s the perfect environment for fresh new relationships or to refresh our own already existing ones and what we’re about to talk it fits perfectly here.
Picture the next frame:
Him – Superman, the man that women very easily fall in love with, because he has the perfect body, he inspires power, trust, responsibility, prosperity and he dresses very well, to facilitate the falling process, immediately and irremediably.
Her – Superwoman, the kind woman, loving, with irresistible smile and glance, capable to offer unconditional acceptance and support, a dream came true of every poet, having the full availability and a mysterious openness to become his own particular blond angel.
Love at first sight.
Romantic dates under the discreet presence of Cupid.
Fist confessions, a stolen kiss and another one for a lovely confirmation.
Tanaah!!
A new relationship with a fantastique potential!
Good.
Everything ensues in a harmonious way, they both feel they receive beauty, love, understanding, intensity and all the other superbe feelings we can find in an ideal context like this one.
All of these till he firstly asks her what sports does she practice and starts to find her reasonable suggestions, from his point of view, of course!
Her reaction?!
It’s actually every woman’s reaction in this position.
In this kind of context, in an absolutely normal way, from our perspective of course, she inflames.
Why?
Because the first thought that crosses her mind right away is that he no longer finds her attractive or attractive enough, therefore, she takes back automatic a few steps lower with her self-confidence and the behavior it’s actually a defense mechanism.
Who doesn’t want to be convinced of his/her own beauty and keep that believe intact?!
When you start a relationship, you know as well as I do, that you start to take a better care of yourself, to eat less, move more and so on, almost unconsciously.
You want to be sexier, more beautiful and ravishing!
You can already see the flat abdomen and the ideal buttocks.
And the gorgeous man, who just appeared in your horizon, becomes your perfect context of ineluctability.
So, you start with all the conviction and energy to transform you body in a goddess frame, to feel excellent and make him tear in privacy.
Just he doesn’t know that.
He just enjoys your already fascinating beauty and maybe, to a moment, right before the certain moment of the suggestion, when he takes you into his arms, he thinks about how it would be if you were 5kg slimmer.
I know, it’s tough.
How can he do that to you, right?!!
Doesn’t he know how you prepare every day to be more beautiful?!
No, he does not, dearest!
This is the truth.
When you start to work with your body it takes 4 weeks for you to notice the changes, 8 weeks for your closest friends to notice and 12 for the rest of the world.
Naturally, he doesn’t see the small changes you make every day and because you haven’t told him, he doesn’t know that you are in a process.
So, men find solutions extremely easy, this is their character, more pragmatic.
Of course, you don’t have to tell him everything, you can offer him very vague information, like your new fitness instructor does something funny or a new zumba colleague of yours made a good joke yesterday.
A rumor. Anything.
Something that offers him the certainty that you are taking care to stay attractive for him and to become better than this for your body and health.
This has a major importance for a man who knows to take care of his body and really does it!
You might ask yourself why is this important the physical aspect, I imagine?
You might already know the answer.
When it comes to romantic relationships and attraction, men are really visual.
If for us, women, it counts more their character and afterwards the body, for them first comes the body and then our other qualities, or, in the happiest case: 50-50.
It is this way since the beginning, cupcake!
A woman seeks for safety in a man.
A man seeks for vitality in a woman.
Men have this primer attraction instinct for the woman who shows health and the easier way to validate this is to observe her skin aspect and the smell.
And women have a primer attraction instinct for the man who shows power, confidence, responsibility, and the easier way to validate this is to observe his level of prosperity and social position.
In tribes, the leader was the most wanted man( prosperity & social position checked) because they had maximum protection, including the certainty that if he is ever killed in a hunting all the tribe will take care of his family.
And the woman with the most beautiful skin and most pleasant smell was wanted so much because men had the certainty that they had the best chances for healthy kids.
These are absolutely natural biological needs!
Of course, we have chiseled them because we live in the XXI century now, but the psychological mechanisms are the same because are generated by primer needs.
It is very important for you easiness and for harmony’s sake to understand that 
Then, we might get tempted to think “If he’s not able to love me the way I am, then he doesn’t really loves me!”
I have a tough question here: do you love and accept yourself completely the way you are right now?
Does not every gesture of beautification means we want more from us? We want to change something in better?
Because we can’t ask to be loved and accepted from the other ones around us if we are not able to offer this firstly to ourselves.
And the relationships have the designation to offer us the best growing environments, it’s up to us exclusively to make them pretty too.
However, fortunately, there is a beautiful plan, love:
Become the fascinating woman that you know you can be! And let him know you are in a wonderful growing process!
Give your body the 12 weeks and stay engaged in the process!
Men appreciate very much prosperity and sacrifices.
If he knows about you, he will offer you his support along with his admiration, even if he doesn’t know too much and he will just enjoy the results.
Make a deal with him!
If he has things in his character you don’t like, for example, impulsivity or apathy, make a deal together: he will work to change what you find unpleasant and you start to go to the gym and you modify your diet.
And you both are patient and respectful with each other, you have 3 months for this and your whole support put together
Sometimes, especially in the first months of relationship, which are critical, to trust the guy is the most powerful and beautiful compliment for him.
A relationship in which you build something together reaches a higher level of profoundness and it gains more chances of longevity.
Offer the love, trust, admiration, support and the respect you want to receive and be sure he knows it!
I wish you lot of harmony, love and beautiful blossom on this gorgeous spring and… in your love life!
I invite you to share your experience and opinion on this topic, dear Superwoman!
Stay open and enjoy beautiful surprises from life!
To your beauty,
i r i n a
P.S. I am really grateful to a wonderful Superman for letting me inspire from his experience